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Surrender and Control: “It Is What It Is”
Published on 27 May 2010 at 11:20 am.
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Filed under Feature Articles,Personal Development Strategies,Spirituality & Inspiration.
Someone cuts you off while you’re driving, your computer goes down, you have a conflict with a friend, a client fails to hire you, your cash flow is tight, your commitments and intentions for the day go awry…. and you kick into high gear with your thoughts and feelings going in all directions until you feel pretty bad, right? Exhausting, isn’t it? Dramas!!!
If you can relate to getting caught up in that mind trap (and most of us can!) you might not know much energy and inner peace the emotional turmoil costs you. Tons, actually.
The only one who really suffers is you.
Whatever you expect, anticipate, imagine and become attached to may actually manifest, which may be more of what you don’t want. Have you heard the phrases, “Life happens when you’ve made other plans, or If you want to give God a laugh, make a plan”, often hooks us into those pesky mind traps.
Reactions do not change the outcome of what has already occurred. Your thoughts and feelings make no difference in changing what has already happened. You have the power to affect what happens next as long as you are able to surrender and accept the present moment instead of struggling against it.
Because…..It is what it is.
Not good or bad, right or wrong. It just is.
Surrendering invites you to be present and being fully accepting of what is, in the moment. By releasing physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual struggles, you experience the freedom to respond to life, rather than living life through reaction.
That’s been an area of focus for me for the past few months – surrendering without resistance especially when the present moment sucks.
In your daily life, do you surrender to your experiences or attempt to control the outcome of what happens, or doesn’t happen?
The need to be in control is a sure sign of fear operating in your life…..
What needs to occur or change before you let go? I don’t mean becoming a doormat, complacent to your experiences and sacrificing your well-being: I do mean being open and flexible to the unpredictability of life and flowing with them with a sense of curiosity and adventure!
Surrender allows us to attract new possibilities and invites the Universe to shower us with blessings and gifts. Surrender connects us with the Divine and defuses fear.
So, the next time things don’t go your way, and you become aware of mounting stress and irritability, take several deep breaths and exhale slowly. Remind yourself, “It is what it is” and ask, “What is mine to do?”
Practice accepting the present moment because the only moment you have is NOW. Let go of any hopes and expectations that are unrealistic. Save your energy for things that are more pleasurable and productive.
St Theresa’s PrayerMay today there be peace within.
May you trust God that you are exactly where you are meant to be.
May you not forget the infinite possibilities that are born of faith.
May you use those gifts that you have received, and pass on the love that has been given to you.
May you be content knowing you are a child of God.
Let this presence settle into your bones, and allow your soul the freedom to sing, dance, praise and love.
It is there for each and every one of us.
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Here’s my invitation:
For one week, surrender (as often as you can) to as many situations that arise.
Notice:
- How often do you truly surrender?
- What are your obstacles?
- How is fear influencing your ability to surrender?
- How does courageous, faith, and trust influence your ability to surrender?
- What shifts do you need to make in order to let go? (emotionally, physically, psychologically, spiritually)
- What are you noticing when you let go of resisting or attempting to redirect, shift or control? What happens? Are you feeling more relaxed, less stressed, clearer, happier, lighter?
Here’s a bigger invitation!
Pick an issue in your life that you have been struggling with, holding on to, trying to change, feeling angry about – get the picture?
What do you need to surrender in order to move forward towards resolution?
What do you need to let go of to expand your experience?
What gifts and blessings might you be overlooking that is in service to your growth and evolution? For example, can you find one thing good about situation that might create a different perspective?
Remember, you create your misery by how you choose to view your life. You are the Creator of your reality moment to moment. Choose wisely in how you show up either in reaction or surrender. The choices you make today create your future.
PS – Read my article on Shifting From A Victim of Circumstances To The Hero Of Your Life Story
Have a great day 
Blessings,
Lorraine
www.isayyesnow.com
