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7 Reasons Why You Might Not Be In The Flow
Published on 1 Aug 2009 at 1:14 pm.
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As many of you know I have been a broadcaster for the past several years interviewing leaders in the field of business development, personal transformation and spiritual awakening. Whenever I do an interview people register for the call and are invited to pre-submit questions.
Each time I do a teleseminar call no matter what the topic, consistent themes show up:
- Attracting more money,
- Scarcity and lack fears especially with money,
- How to stay in faith and trust no matter what is happening
- Managing negative self talk
- Breaking out of self-sabotage patterns
- Worry about the future
- Blaming yourself for choices made in the past that have caused current hardship and pain
- Staying focused and productive
- Ways to get rid of what you are feeling and experiencing because it is painful or scary
Do you see yourself here?
My parents grew up in the depression and I have no frame of reference for what that time was like other than what I have read, heard or seen in the movies. During the Depression fortunes were made by people who were innovative and had the foresight to look beyond the world picture, opening their hearts and minds to dream of a grander future. This is where we all are. All of us.
Our current undesirable life situations cause us to look at what we value, love, and cherish that isn’t rooted in the “getting of things and possessions”. When we are in fear and judgment, we experience constriction – physically, emotionally, psychologically, and spiritually.
Imagine holding your breath or feeling like you are carrying a two-ton weight that limits your ability to breathe deeply and move freely. When we constrict we can unconsciously push away abundance and money and attract more lack and scarcity. Life can look bleak; filled with struggle, hardship, and adversity. At least that’s the story we create in our mind and in our reality.
What we are being called to do is to re-evaluate our lives – who we are, who we have become, what we put our attention on, what we are holding onto that is not serving our prosperity and peace, what we are avoiding and ignoring, the choices we make in desperation rather than from inspiration – to listen to the calling and guidance of our soul to lead us to the heaven on earth we came here to experience.
When we shift into expansion, we can breathe more deeply and our mood becomes lighter, more peaceful and uplifted. Our view of life becomes filled with excitement and possibility. Life become easier and more joyfull.
Whatever you are experiencing in your life is a vibrational match to everything you think, feel, say, and do because everything that exists is energy. So, if you’re unhappy with your life and want to change it, you must do the inner work to shift the energy to be in alignment with what you wish to manifest.
If you desire more money and abundance but you are entrenched in fear and lack consciousness, you will attract lack and scarcity rather than abundance.
If you desire to have more love in your life and you consistently judge and beat yourself up (and others) you will attract the absence of the love you desire.
I continually talk about how important it is to do the inner work which can be painful and uncomfortable. There is no side-stepping this work!
Are you thinking, “Ok, I don’t want to be where I am. What do I do to shift from constriction to expansion?
A better question to ask is, “Who am I being in this situation?”
Who you are being directly affects what you are doing, or not doing.
- A challenging situation might be here to teach you faith and trust in yourself and God
- A person who pushes your buttons might be here to help you cultivate compassion, love, or patience. They might be here to help you see a quality in yourself you are dis-owning.
- Sabotaging yourself might be a signal that you have some forgiveness and self-love healing work to do.
Change brings experiences that offer healing and growth opportunities. When we are in transition, our challenge is managing the psychological stress and emotions that are stirred up with change. Are you taking advantage of them to evolve or using them to complain and blame? Read my article on Navigating Through Change
7 Reasons Why You Might Not Be In The Flow
1. Forgiveness Healing Work. 99.99 % of the time the person or situation we are the most upset with is US. Getting angry at ourselves or others is a common way we hold onto the past and drag it around. Forgiveness doesn’t mean excusing or forgetting what happened, it means coming to acceptance and peace with the past and our humanness so we can move forward. Being unforgiving blocks flow because it blocks love. Love magnetizes abundance and good flowing to us. Read my article on How Forgiving Are You?
2. Unconscious limiting beliefs. How you feel about yourself consciously and unconsciously is the energy operating at all times in what you are manifesting. The stronger the emotional charge, the faster we manifest either what we desire or what is undesired. And before we attract what we desire, we first attract its’ opposite. Read my post: The Law of Opposites.
Affirmations and declarations can be effective in working with the conscious mind but they don’t effectively create the shifts on the subconscious because our egos get in the way. Working with modalities that bypass the conscious mind (there are many to choose) have helped many to transform and release beliefs, resolve the past, and open the flow of abundance.
3. Ego vs. Soul. Who are you listening to – your head or your heart? Are your choices and actions motivated by fear or are they Divinely inspired? Do you follow your intuition and instincts or do you override them? If you’ve grown up being taught to ignore your inner wisdom, cultivating a relationship with your soul will help you to make choices that align with heart.
We are spiritual beings in a physical form. When you align with your spirit to use your ego as a tool rather than identify with your mind as “who you are” and the expert to guide your choices and actions, your life experiences will take on a deeper meaning and fulfillment.
4. Clear the energy zappers. Where is your energy going? We put up with, accept, take on and are dragged down by people’s behavior, situations, unmet needs, crossed boundaries, in-completions, problems and even our own behavior.
Examples: anything you are avoiding, anything is need of repair or replacement, unreturned phone calls correspondence, bills, debts, clutter, unspoken words (stuffing feelings), and boundaries. Some things take time to clear and can be handled is smaller steps. Energy zappers create clutter and block flow.
5. Fear. Anxiety, worry, fear… is generated by the ego and reinforced by the messages we receive in our day to day life. Spiritual practices, walks, in nature, meditation, loving, healthy relationships, feed and nurture us body, mind and spirit.
When you’re focused in fear, your attention is on the future. Coming back to the present, practicing sincere daily gratitude, being loving and generous with others, cultivating faith and trust, and conscious breathing are ways to shift from fear to a more centered, empowered space.
6. Resisting the healing and growth experience. Stop fighting against where you are. Stop judging where you are to be a bad or wrong place and asking, “How do I get rid of this feeling or situation I don’t like?” You are where you are! And there is a purpose to what you are experiencing even if you don’t like it. The more you fight your feelings and situations the more energy you give them to hang around. “What you resist, persists.” Instead, consider what the feeling or situation might be trying to tell you or teach you.
And, we become impatient when things don’t happen fast enough or the way we want especially when we are feeling fear and urgency. In addition to the Law of Attraction and other governing principles, another powerfull law is the Law of Divine Order and Timing. You timing for something to happen and the Universe’s timing may not be aligned. That’s where faith and trust comes in AND following your intuition.
Learning how to live in harmony with these universal principles and how to leverage your knowledge of the laws so you can align in thought, belief and behavior in respect of these laws, is both empowering and remarkably effective. (This is one of the steps we teach in Aligning with Destiny program)
7. Your Relationship with Money. Do you see money as a big monster who disappears and makes you suffer or a loving friend who wants you to have we everything you desire? Do you feel anger and blame towards the power money seems to have in your life and in the lives of others? Your attitude, beliefs and relationship with money affects how it shows up in your life.
My final point: If you have been consistently investing time, energy, and money in growing yourself and you business, and you are feeling frustrated with your life, what’s missing that might help you break through?
We can get so close to our own stuff that we are unable to see what’s going on and help ourselves get through certain things especially if it means feeling pain or discomfort. One of the biggest reasons people don’t get the assistance they need is because they say, “I can’t afford it.” That message comes from your ego!
If you are continuing to get most of the same results, you can’t afford not to get the help you need. And I understand how prickly the money topic is for people today.
Every successful entrepreneur I know works with a team of people including coaches, mentors, accountability buddies, and mastermind groups. If you aspire to play a bigger game, you gotta stretch out of your comfort and surround yourself with the people and resources you need to succeed. Life is a journey of courage!
The bottom line is how badly you want something and whether you are really willing to do whatever it takes including making financial investments in yourself to have a more prosperous future.
These are incredible times to step into the next and highest version of who we are meant to be.
Are you in or out?
PS: Register for two FREE intro calls on 8/11 & 8/13 with some of the most successfull teachers and luminaries as we talk about, The Courage To Live Your Destiny. Learn more The calls will be recorded!
And then make the decision to join me and my partner Anita Pathik Law for Aligning With your Destiny beginning September 8. Receive and experience proven transformational tools that will work with you consciously AND subconsciously to transform your beliefs and affect your behaviors to dramatically change your life. You’ll also receive some fabulous hand-picked high quality bonus gifts from leaders in the field! Take the next step in shifting from a victim of your circumstances to become the hero of your life story.
Blessings,
Lorraine
www.powerfull-living.biz
www.isayyesnow.com
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