Coaching Tip: Your Language is Creating Your Reality
Published on 19 Jan 2009 at 8:37 am.
12 Comments.
Filed under Attraction, Coaching Tips, Feature Articles, Spirituality & Inspiration.
“Your beliefs become your thoughts. Your thoughts become your words. Your words become your actions. Your actions become your habits. Your habits become your values. Your values become your destiny.”– Mahatma Gandhi
Your Self-Talk
Have you ever paid attention to the conversations you are having in your head?
Your self talk gives voice to what you believe about yourself, others, the world… All that internal chatter can either help you or hinder you to lead a happier, prosperous life. Your self-talk echoes the beliefs you have come to accept as TRUE, such as worst case scenarios, things that happened in the past you expect to repeat, and what ifs. If your self-talk is compelling enough, you can scare yourself into action or immobility.
Internally - it is the constant commentary inside your head.
Externally – it is the comments you make about yourself and what’s going on around you to friends, family, and everyone you come in contact with.
Your self talk can be supportive (empowering, makes you feel good) or non-supportive (deflating, makes you feel bad).
When we believe the things we tell ourselves, “It’s going to be too hard. What if I make a mistake? I’m not good enough”, we can feel confusion, anger, fear, stress…. When we believe the negative things we tell ourselves about who we are, we our world might become one of lack, pain, & struggle.
Noticing your internal commentary is an important key in taking steps to change beliefs and create new realities. The more you recognize that you are NOT the story you are identifying with and telling others, you can free yourself to shift into empowered choice and action.
The Power of Language (excerpt from Aligning With Destiny program)
When you become aware of the language you are using unconsciously, you can intentionally choose to shift the energy to a more expansive way of expressing, thus raising your vibrations to align with manifesting what you want.
Common ways we use language to create pain:
Notice how some of the language is creating undesired states of being through violent suggestions and untruths that our bodies. How often do you think and say things that begin with these words?Repeat the words below and feel into your body as you say them out loud.
- I don’t have time to….
- I’m starving to death
- My head is killing me
- You make me sick
- This person/situation is driving me crazy
- “You made me…” (blaming others for your reaction)
- My life would be better if only…(excuses and rationalizations)
- I am…
- I’m the type of person who…
- I can’t afford to…
- I can’t…
- It’s too hard…
- I’m sick and tired of…
How do you feel? Do the words feel constrictive or expansive?
We manifest what we give the most energy and attention to, remember the Law of Attraction? If you are using words that create pain and constriction, you will make them your reality.
Shifting Language
Shifting language includes recognizing that how you schedule your time is a choice based on what your valued priorities are in any situation.
Words like NEVER, ALWAYS, and FOREVER are constrictive and imply absolutes. When you find yourself using these words, ask yourself, “Is what I am thinking, feeling, and saying really true?”
Shifting language is simple and powerful. You can start by replacing constrictive, restrictive or untrue language by challenging yourself to align with your truth.
Instead, you can say things like:
- Sometimes
- In some situations
- I have had experiences when
- In the past…
- I have found…
- It’s possible….
Words like: should, shouldn’t, need to, have to, and “supposed to”… create the illusion that you have a lack of choice.
You don’t
How much vitality and joy do you feel when you do things out of guilt, obligation, or shame because you fear negative consequences. You may be afraid of upsetting others or risking the withdrawal of their love and being punished in some way. The result is a build-up of resentment, anger and frustration that ultimately becomes self-directed.
Shifting into the language of choice opens the flow to receive more of what you want. Repeat the words below and feel into your body as you say them out loud.
- I choose to…..
- It’s ok to…
- I give myself permission to
- I allow…
- I want…
- I get to…
- I love to…
How do you feel? Do the words feel constrictive or expansive?
The mind, when directed by Universal Love (God/Higher Power, one’s Spirit) can be an amazing tool for creating a fulfilling and purposefull life, especially when the mind is allowed to be directed by the heart/Universal Love.
Whether you want a thriving business, greater prosperity, vibrant health, a loving relationship, weight reduction….. your thoughts and words are creating your reality all the time.
Start consciously paying attention to your self talk. Is it positively supportive or non-supportive? What are you repeating to others? (read my article on managing mental chatter)
If it’s non-supportive, how can you change your language to be more affirming and accepting?
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Cheers,
Lorraine
www.powerfull-living.biz
Jenny Mannion on 20 Jan 2009 at 5:19 pm: 1
Hi Lorraine,
Oh my favorite topic — self talk! Boy was I appalled when I began to listen to mine and finally HEARD it! Great choice of words to shift into — changing our self talk is one of the most empowering things we can do to immediately affect our lives! Thank you.
Love,
Jenny
CG Walters on 20 Jan 2009 at 6:31 pm: 2
A very important focus, Lorraine. Thank you!
Many blessings to you and all you hold dear,
CG
Evelyn Lim on 20 Jan 2009 at 8:55 pm: 3
I’ve become more aware than ever about the words that I use and write. I still have more to polish on but I’m already noticing that with an increased awareness, my thoughts are shifting in alignment with my words and vice versa. So definitely, language plays a big part in creating my reality!! Thanks for writing this post!
lorraine on 20 Jan 2009 at 9:02 pm: 4
Good for you Evelyn
Awareness is the key. Are your words reflecting the reality you wish to create. So often we speak without being fully present or being deliberate in the words we choose. I continue to catch myself when my attention drifts and refocus.
Thanks for adding your thoughts
lorraine on 20 Jan 2009 at 9:02 pm: 5
Thanks CG
Have a great week
Clara on 21 Jan 2009 at 1:00 am: 6
Negative self talk is a bad habit for a lot of people. Playing those tapes over and over in your head just set you up for failure. Insightful article.
Adam on 21 Jan 2009 at 8:19 am: 7
I could feel a distinct difference in my self when using the constrictive as opposed to the expansive phrases. Thank you for sharing your insights in another great article.
lorraine on 21 Jan 2009 at 8:32 am: 8
Negative self talk has become such a habit that people don’t even realize they are doing it Clara
The good news is that once we become aware of the stuff we are telling ourselves, we can choose to change it. I wrote a blog post on tips dealing with negative mental chatter. I just added it to this posting.
Here’s to loving thoughts!
Lorraine
lorraine on 21 Jan 2009 at 8:37 am: 9
Good for you Adam
I’m a big word shifter. Like saying the word problem and shifting to using the word opportunity instead. Words carry a different energy and when we start to change our language (which takes practice) we not only feel better, our life opens up in some delightful ways.
Have a great week!
Lorraine
Suzie Cheel on 22 Jan 2009 at 3:26 pm: 10
How true!
Watching our language, the words we speak influences how we be and do in the world.
i know my life flows more positively when i consciously remove the negative words from my life
Thanks
lorraine on 27 Jan 2009 at 6:58 pm: 11
The energy is a powerfull creator Suzie
Neale Donald Walsch reminds us again that manifesting includes 3 factors -thoughts first, then words, then action. Unconsciously, we are manifesting more of what is undesired. The key is waking up!
Powerfull Living » 7 Keys To Shift Money Fears and Poverty Consciousness on 15 Nov 2009 at 12:27 pm: 12
[...] 5. Shift your language. Your inner thoughts, self-talk, the words you are thinking and saying to others are either constrictive or expansive. You can feel this in your body because your thoughts, beliefs, and feeling are interconnected. Do your words and thoughts reflect what you wish to create? For tips to shift your language, read my article: Your Language Is Creating Your Reality [...]