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Coaching Tip: Handle Your Clutter. Part 2
Published on 15 Dec 2008 at 5:28 am.
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Filed under Business Development,Coaching Tips,Courage Series,Personal Development Strategies,Spirituality & Inspiration.
We put up with, accept, take on and are dragged down by people’s behavior, situations, unmet needs, crossed boundaries, problems, even our own attitudes and behavior (avoidance, procrastination, excuses…) Emotional clutter can be a huge energy zapper.
Look around at the people in your life. How do you feel in their presence? Uplifted, energized and supported? Stressed and drained? How about when you leave them? Do you feel inspired, motivated, positive…? Are you grateful to get away from them because you feel angry, depressed or exhausted?
A few years ago I let go of a friendship with someone I had been very close to for about 5 years. When our friendship was strong, I couldn’t imagine my life without her. I have so many memories of laughing and hanging out with her. Then slowly we began to grow apart which was nobody’s fault. The differences in some of our core values, beliefs, spirituality, and attitudes created more distance between us. For a time I felt anger and resentment towards her until I realized I was really feeling sad that our friendship did not endure through those differences.
Looking backwards, I have come to understand that having her in my life was a great gift and blessing. She helped me to cultivate a greater confidence in myself and to find my voice in expressing who I am in all areas of my life.
People grow apart and find themselves in different places. It’s a part of life experience. People will come into your life for moments, some for brief periods, and others for a lifetime.
When I talk about looking at personal relationships, people typically bring up their family and say, “My family is hard to be around. What do I do about them? I can’t eliminate them from my life”. I understand. Some options you have is to minimize the time you spend with them, set clear boundaries, and to be selective about what you discuss with them. Be open to recognize how they are being of service to you to grow as a person. What might be some of the hidden gifts and blessings they bring to you? What qualities might you cultivate by having them in your life such as: learning compassion, patience, unconditional love, setting boundaries, or finding YOUR voice?
How about your business or career?
1. When you get up in the morning are you excited to start your day? Are you doing work you enjoy or just to earn a paycheck?
2. If you have your own business, are you working with your ideal clients and customers or are you accepting work because you need the money? (And there is nothing wrong with saying yes to pay the bills!). Let me say you certainly can generate income working with people you like and doing work you love. Many people have created lives like that!
3. Have you been feeling pulled to change careers or start a new business and fear is holding you back from taking “a leap of faith?”
Holding on to people and situations for the wrong reasons (guilt, habit, shoulds) creates resentments and potential conflicts because you are in battle with yourself. The more we deny what our heart and spirit is asking for, the more inner pain we feel.
What do you think you are attracting into your life when you are in conflict with yourself?
Do you have the courage to be true to who you are?
Give yourself permission to let go of the people and situations in your life that are no longer a fit for who you are and bless them all whether they were desirable or undesirable. Choose to deepen trust in yourself, The Divine, and others by listening to and following the calling of your spirit to guide you towards what’s next. Faith…..
What have you been saying no or yes to that is out of alignment (not a fit for) with who you are?
What are you ready to let go of so that you create space for some new relationships and opportunities to come into your life??
Who are you ready to become to have more abundance and joy in your life?
When you dance with The Divine, blessings abound.
Blessings,
Lorraine
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Gamy on 18 Dec 2008 at 9:56 am: 1
Hey, Lorraine, the hamsters are so cute.
I like the way you are so frank and true in mentioning about your journey with this your close friend. This is what I like about you.
I agree with you that some relationships is better to part then to keep on at it due to fear of losing them.
You are one courageous lady.
Love you,
Gamy
lorraine on 18 Dec 2008 at 5:52 pm: 2
Hey Gamy
Thanks for stopping by and adding your thoughts! It’s been a while.
The invitation to be true to “who we are” is an important part of the journey. I bless everyone who has contributed to my life experiences. You’re a part of it!
Hugs,
Lo