Coaching Tip: Creating a “Rough Day” Strategy
Published on 10 Jul 2008 at 7:46 am.
6 Comments.
Filed under Business Development, Coaching Tips, Personal Development Strategies, Spirituality & Inspiration.
We all have those days that challenge us to stay centered, optimistic, productive and connected to ourselves. Perhaps the day seems to be going well and something happens that puts a damper on the entire day! Our attitudes can be affected by people and situations that cause us to have a “good or bad day.”
To help shift things into perspective, I encourage my clients to create a “rough day or rough moment” strategy.
Developing your strategy - what are the specific elements to consider?
Who and what are your attitude shifters? Make a list.
1. Connecting with people who lift your spirits. Getting together with specific friends, colleagues, family?
2. What brings you joy, peace, and makes you smile? Reading a great book, having a massage, watching a movie, watching Ellen DeGeneres, going out to lunch or dinner with friends…
3. What practices help you to decompress? Meditation, reading something inspirational, taking a walk in nature, soothing music, playing with your children or pet…?
4. Creating something? Writing, doing something artistic, building something
original…
5. Being in service to another? Being generous with your time, energy,money….to help someone else?
The next time you find yourself having a one of those days or moments, I encourage you to feel whatever you’re feeling. Stay mindful of making your feelings more than they need to be so that you are not censoring yourself and stuffing them. Vent and release whatever you need to express without having it become the place “you
live.”
Next, tap into your rough day strategy. Using this tool invites you to expand your viewpoint by first shifting your attitude. From a wider lens of perception, decisions can be made to either feel good or bad based on how we choose to view the situation; problems can shift to opportunities and
solutions, stress can be transformed into renewed energy…get the picture?
PS. Remember that you will receive benefit from a valuable tool ONLY if you use it!
To your success and happiness,
Lorraine
Lance on 10 Jul 2008 at 4:05 pm: 1
Well, this is an excellent idea! We do all have moments like that, and I’m going to give this a try the next time it happens for me.
lorraine on 10 Jul 2008 at 7:46 pm: 2
I find this strategy to be very useful Lance
When we’re in the midst of our stuff, our minds can go blank. Having this strategy prepared in advance offers proven actions that we can implement immediately. Treat it as a living document and keep adding to it!
Warmly,
Lorraine
Evelyn Lim | Attraction Mind Map on 11 Jul 2008 at 9:12 pm: 3
Your points in #3 work very well for me. If I feel somewhat off, I tend to switch my PC off early and do something else that brings my energy back. Meditation is best by far; followed by being with my kids and reading inspirational books.
I don’t use to do these. Previously, I would “stay” with my negative emotion and feel bad all day!
Thanks for sharing,
Evelyn
lorraine on 12 Jul 2008 at 7:09 am: 4
That’s great you you can catch yourself when you are feeling off and make conscious choices to do things that make you feel better.
Who consciously wants to feel bad and keep feeling that way?
Warmly,
Lorraine
Melinda Day-Harper on 14 Jul 2008 at 7:11 am: 5
Great tips, Lorraine! I find it helpful to have a word that I use to redirect negative thoughts. Mine happens to be “Pause” which tells me to immediately list 3 things I’m grateful for.
Many Blessings,
Melinda
lorraine on 14 Jul 2008 at 1:09 pm: 6
“Pause” is great Melinda
I have often used “Wait” which can mean “What am I thinking? and sometimes, “why am I talking? When I need to be listening
Gratitude is a great attitude shifter. Each day I stay open to recognize my daily gifts and blessings as the lens by which I view my life. Some days I forget where to look! LOL
Warmly,
Lorraine