What Makes You Fabulous, Lovable, Wonderfull…..?
Published on 13 Jan 2008 at 9:23 am.
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Filed under Feature Articles, Personal Development Strategies, Spirituality & Inspiration.
On a coaching call last week I asked a client, “What do you love about yourself?” She was beating herself up about how she handled something that she was judging as not being good enough. When I asked her the question, there was dead silence. I waited. A minute or so later, she told me something she does well for others. Ok, fine. Acknowledging a skill she likes (I didn’t sense the love!) that relates to doing something for others did answer my question.
I invited her to respond by also recognizing a quality, strength or gift about herself that she was proud of. One she was willing to own. Something that brought up a feeling of self-love.
She was struggling at what to say so she asked me the same question. When she heard my answer, she was quiet again before she came up with something nice to say about who she is.
If asked the questions: ” What do your love about yourself? What makes you fabulous and lovable?”
What would you answer?
A few days later I was having a conversation with a friend about a piece of unworthiness I have been working with for a while. (In case you might be thinking I have all my stuff together, I don’t!).
I find fear and unworthiness are two main issues that powerfully affect self-confidence and self-esteem. How we feel about ourselves affects every aspect of our lives: business success, relationships, happiness, health & wellness…. get the picture why becoming self-aware is so vital to having what you want?
When we lack feelings of self-worth and self-love, we don’t allow ourselves to receive the good that is being offered to us in so many ways. Ouch!
So, my friend asked me to do two things:
1. Email my close friends and colleagues with a request for feedback. Guess what the questions were? LOL. I asked them to answer the questions, “Why do you love me or what do you love about me?”
Asking the questions wasn’t about pumping up my ego and strutting like a peacock about how great I am. I really wanted to hear how people saw and experienced me so that I could take their love into my heart.
I sent the email to 7 close friends who responded immediately. I was blown away by what they wrote. I admit that I haven’t been able to take all their words into my heart. I have some more work to do. I combined all the emails into a Word document and printed it out so I can continue to read it and allow their loving responses to break through some of the blockages to my heart.
2. I was asked to write down what I love about myself. I had no difficulty writing answers to that question. I noticed I had very little emotion attached to the things I listed so there might be something there I need to uncover. Oh yeah.
Here are three things I love about myself to get you thinking if you’re going blank:
1. I’m a high-integrity person. I take responsibility for what I think, feel and do. I own my stuff. If I make a mistake, need to confront a situation, apologize and make amends, you can count on me doing it.
2. My intuition and instincts are highly developed. That helps me to get to the heart of things quickly. I know when the wisdom of my spirit is coming through to guide me.
3. I have a kind and compassionate heart. People naturally open up to me and feel my spirit.
What would you write?
If you saw my article post on Treasure Mapping and clicked on the link to my picture, you know that I have some large dreams and desires for 2008. Do you? Being authentic and real is key to manifesting what I (you) want so this exercise was right on the money!
Here’s my challenge to you.
Repeat my exercise. Give yourself the gift of feeling and receiving love - from yourself and the people who are crazy about you. 
Come back and share what happened. Spread the word to others!
Have a fabulous, loving wonderfull …day!
Cheers,
Lorraine
www.powerfull-living.biz
Andrea Hess | Empowe on 13 Jan 2008 at 4:45 pm: 1
Great exercise, Lorraine! It’s so wonderful when we can give each other permission to truly celebrate our own magnificence out loud! I think only when we can really celebrate ourselves can we openly and lovingly celebrate the magnificence of everyone else in our lives, without jealousy, envy, or insecurity.
I’ll share my favorite thing about me these days - I feel such a deep personal connection to Divine Spirit at just about any moment when I’m willing to tune in … it’s just so immediately available these days, which is fairly new. I love it! It feels like I’m having a mad love affair with the Divine in me … which allows me to celebrate the Divine in everyone else, too.
Thanks for the inspiration!
Blessings,
Andrea
lorraine on 13 Jan 2008 at 5:38 pm: 2
What great comments Andrea
So true about not being able to celebrate others if you cannot celebrate yourself. I found this exercise poignant and powerfull personally.
I love what you said about having a mad love affair with Divine spirit. What a wonderfull image and intention for us all. Thank you for sharing that!
I look forward to hearing what you love about yourself.
Much love & blessings to you
Lorraine
Gamy Rachel on 14 Jan 2008 at 2:43 am: 3
Very cool Lorraine.
I like all the three points you wrote about yourself.
Though I just got to know you recently, I do have very good impression about you.
That is why I like to always support you and your work.
Love
Gamy
lorraine on 14 Jan 2008 at 8:25 am: 4
Thanks Gamy
What would your answers be?
Blessings,
Lorraine
Gamy Rachel on 14 Jan 2008 at 9:18 am: 5
Hi Lorraine,
Thought I can escape without talking about it
I used to be a be quite hard on myself, and thus sometimes can be hard on others too. I wasn’t mean,
but I won’t call you Honey. I used to not like it when some of my friends called me honey, sweetheart or dear.
Especially when I got moody, I will think to myself “don’t you honey me” in my heart. Many of my
ex colleagues, always described me as the “no nonsense” type of person when it comes to work.
When I work, I can be quite stern and serious. So people who knew me before considered me as
as the Big sister before I was “transformed”. Due to the nature of my past work, I got to see clients
often outside, so when I worked in my office, I don’t waste time talking nonsense besides work.
Thus, the no nonsense description came about.
Tell you a secret, I didn’t like my own personality in the past. I felt that I was too serious and stern,
Took my work
(not to my clients) but to the people around me. That was why I got burned out
and myself too seriously
Ok, Iike I said, I have been transformed
Now I like people calling me honey and I also enjoy calling you one too:)
I feel that it’s fun doing that. Calling the people you like or love
affectionately is refreshing and it feels good. But I am also
not like some of my not so close friends calling others with
affectionate names everywhere and to everybody.
Three things I love and like about myself now.
1. I am fun (yes, I can be fun, if I want to)
2. I am considerate,understanding and helpful. Thank God for this quality, if not my friends would have given up on me.
3. Integrity is also my quality.
one more - I enjoy giving people nice surprises- (good ones of course)
Yes! Honey, thank you for asking
Blessings
Gamy
lorraine on 14 Jan 2008 at 11:31 am: 6
I was nodding my head as I read your comments about “honey” Gamy,
Everything you wrote could have come out of my mouth.
We are very much alike in many ways.
Thanks for being so open and honest.
Love,
Lorraine
Gamy Rachel on 14 Jan 2008 at 11:52 am: 7
Which part of the “honey”?
the beginning part or the ending part:)?
Love
Gamy
lorraine on 14 Jan 2008 at 2:34 pm: 8
The beginning
Gamy Rachel on 14 Jan 2008 at 11:20 pm: 9
LoL.. “Don’t you honey me”
:) 
Tom Volkar - Delightful Work on 15 Jan 2008 at 2:48 pm: 10
I accepted your challenge but I see them as two different questions. What makes me lovable is not the same as what I love about myself.
Here’s what I love about myself.
1). My steadfastness in choosing to live by my values even when doing so is unpopular with those closest to me.
2). My willingness to confidently believe in the capability of others even when they don’t belief as much in themselves.
3). My blatant wildness and the delicious feeling of irreverence that arises from expressing it.
Thank you for the challenge. I enjoyed it so much that I stumbled you.
lorraine on 15 Jan 2008 at 4:16 pm: 11
You are so right Tom
Definitely two questions and I just revised the artilce to reflect that distinction.
I loved your answers especially #3. I could feel the energy and glee popping right off the page. Bravo for embracing who you are with such joy and power.
And many thanks for the stumble!
Blessings,
Lorraine
Jeanne May on 16 Jan 2008 at 1:57 am: 12
Hi Lorraine… thanks for your honesty and also thanks for the challenge! Wow! Interesting question…
What I love about me:
1)my determination to live my life according to my plan, not everybody else’s expectations of what I should do.
2) my honesty — integrity
3) my compassion which allows me to do the work I truly love
Jeanne
http://aspirationsplus.typepad.com/uydayg
lorraine on 16 Jan 2008 at 8:32 am: 13
Hi Jeanne
Self-love is such a big issue for us all and being able to see the good in ourselves is so important. I see a common thread in the answers folks are written - We all want to be loved and accepted for who we are.
The first place that must begin is with us. Integrity is a core value many of us share.
Thanks for playing!
Blessings,
Lorraine
Personal Development Carnival: Issue 27 | The Next 45 Years on 27 Jan 2008 at 8:48 am: 14
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Patricia - Spiritual Journey Of A Lightworker on 27 Jan 2008 at 10:59 pm: 15
3 things that I love about me:
1. My quirky sense of humor.
2. My ability to see both sides of a story.
3. My compassion for myself and others.
lorraine on 28 Jan 2008 at 9:30 am: 16
Those are great one Patricia
I love them all! Sounds like you had no difficulty coming up with these three. I invite you to add more!
Blessings,
Lorraine
Patricia - Spiritual Journey Of A Lightworker on 5 Feb 2008 at 5:39 pm: 17
You asked so here they are:
4. My gift with words.
5. My creativity.
6. My ability to make and keep friends.
7. My ability to stay focused on my spiritual quest.
8. My courage and honesty.
9. My humbleness (I may not sound humble after writing #8.)
10. (Last one) My ability to see both sides of a story.
I Stumbled your article.
lorraine on 5 Feb 2008 at 6:32 pm: 18
I LOVE that you came back and added more Patricia!
I chuckled at your comment about possibly not sounding humble after owning your courage and honesty. I heard self-pride in who you are which is a quality worth claiming and owning out loud! No head bowing here!
Thanks for the Stumble too.
Blessings
Lorraine